Just today, I read an article on how detrimental it can be to see 50 Shades of Grey.
I have concessions to make on this piece of read/movie. First, media is definitely influential in shaping, changing, and radically diverting society. Secondly, on the surface, there is depiction of abuse, which my be translated as normative and affirmed in any context because media makes everything seem okay and “cozy.” Lastly, the depicted relationship in this piece is eliciting pain and struggle, that which is not ideal to making a perfect, Brady Bunch family.
With this said, it is also good to point out that the book/s was/were a product of a creative writer’s imagination, thus should be categorically discriminated as fictional/fantasy-like, a subliminal depiction of probably the writer’s inert urges or spontaneous light-bulb moments for a good story that will interest the readers today.
50 Shades of Grey is objectively interesting, at least to my point-of-view. Why? It is a good subject for human sciences, a good subject to understanding human relational complexities, and a good subject to dismantle a human being’s personality because there is more to know about him. Well, it’s how I really see it. Christian Grey has his own intents. But externally, beyond his internal build-ups, there is more to know why he’s as gray as he is.
Going back to what I have conceded as collectively true, yes media moves society. That’s just how it works. But media is also a tool for change, for refutations of massively-declared-as-true literary or artistic pieces because they do not necessarily depict the truth but just a figment of the mind. Media introduces and presents society with what is proposed, while people are expected to be dynamic, argumentative, and opinionated based on their respective predispositions. The article attached herewith is just an example. Media opens doors to discussions and filtering of values, facts, and life events.
Second point on abuse and the propagation of the idea of domestic violence, abuse, and submission as fine, nobody would explicitly justify abuse, that submitting oneself to the man of wealth and stature, despite the pain because it’s love anyway, media said, is never a norm at all because every woman has the will and choice. The theme of abuse is definitely subject for criticism. But because of this piece, there is a sense of awareness. Though this awareness may be seen as veered towards the desirable side of the spectrum, by getting gradients of opinions, such topic will emerge as something relevant and worth anybody’s pondering and consideration. Again, 50 Shades and the media hype are tools for societal change and molding. What the piece actually tackles is not so much about celebrating a dark and unconventional type of relationships. What it focuses is on is how human beings become transformative and progressive in a way towards the end because the three books should be seen as a continuum of change and reconciliation in each character’s dispositions, that Anastasia Steele has the ability to say no, and that Christian Grey is just human enough to admit to his complexity, idiosyncrasy, and mess. Everyone should try reading the 3 books. I just got my synopsis from my friend.
Third, yes, an ideal relationship should be pleasant, perfect, conventional, and acceptable for society to function. But in the book, it destroys the notion of the ideal. Complex relationships become normative. But come to think of it, it’s not like viewers are mindless to just simply subjugate themselves to Anastasia or Grey’s realities. What beauty the story holds is the admittance to the idea that relationships never go the perfect and ideal way because not all people are made of the same make-up, that they have different stories, even darker than that of Grey’s, and that the best thing to do is to resolve things in one’s human capacity and ability without causing self-destruction, without being detrimental in the most general sense. Messed-up relationships exist because human beings thrive on different environments and life conditions. Nobody can expect a perfect relationship all the time. But 50 Shades never settled for the abuse and the complexity. It goes beyond.
From my understanding, people don’t think the way I do. This may just be my two cents. But my take is rather objective. It stretches beyond what stories the books have to tell. It reaches to the depth of personalities, the reasons for such individual’s character, and many external factors.
I do not like the books because they are not my preference, and I have my own thing, but delving into the humanness of the characters, while tackling several societal issues makes the entire piece worth at least one’s pondering. It’s not good to just jump into conclusions and settle for the conservative’s categorical stance that it’s BAD or the avid fan’s conviction that it’s really GOOD because they are intoxicated themselves. #50ShadesofGrey is attestation to human’s complexity of choices and life because not every single individual is the same. There is still more to know than just opt for a collective or biased reaction.
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